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You can only go as far as advising someone, over and above that, it's beyond you. I am learning everyday; we are not unable to live, we are just too caught  up in other people's lives we forget to live our own lives. Look at it this way, almost every time you want to say or do something, you think about the next person. Let's not talk about empathy, how many times really, do you think of someone because their wellbeing matters to you? Back to my point. The moment you think of someone else, you are utterly doomed, and they are in the deepest of shit. It's like something is being taken away from you, but, because we are human, that is our greatest, inevitable demise. We ought to leave this world empty. That's another thing on its own. That moment, that moment you think of someone else's life, their ways and walks of life, and actually interfering. You come in of course, looking to advice them, no harm intended. But, have you thought through the damage that your words can cause? The means don't always justify the ends. Are you interfering because you want to help, or because you want to make yourself feel better? Is it about you or them?

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