Together We Are Better: Kgabo and Hosia

   

"And now these three remain: faith, hope, and love. But the greatest of these is love." - 1 Corinthians 13:13

February has been dubbed the month of love and what better way to celebrate that than with a young couple that represents all that is love. I caught up with newlyweds, Kgabo and Hosia, to get a sneak peek into their love life and answer some of the questions that some of us had/still have regarding marriage and hopefully get a new perception on love and relationships. Spoiler Alert - they are #RelationshipGoals and the epitome of #TogetherWeAreBetter. 😍😍

How and when did you meet?

BOTH: We met at church in October 2016.

 What was your first impression of each other?

KGABO: He looked sweet, amazing, nice, a bit shy, and quiet.

HOSIA: The kindness in her million-dollar smile on that innocent face got me hooked.

 What does Love mean to you?

KGABO: Love is unselfish and not self-seeking.. Love gives. Love means you keep your word even when things get uncomfortable, make commitments even when things are not exciting and loving. It acknowledges mistakes, no matter how minute, and make things right.

HOSIA: Love means caring and being supportive. It conquers the bad and the good. Love should be shown without any conditions.

      Describe each other in 3 words

KGABO: Amazing. Fun. Charming.

HOSIA: Cute. Loving. Adorable.

     About the proposal

KGABO: We were talking when he suddenly asked, “Will you fully accommodate me in your life?”. I was confused as to what he meant and he put me out of my misery and asked, “Will you marry me?”.  I thought he was joking and blurted out, “Yes, I will”, only to realise that he was dead serious. I don't recall ever being as happy as I was at that realisation and I knew I made the right decision. He then went to my Pastor and that’s when we started planning for lobola negotiations (our parents’ first meeting) and it was uphill from thenceforth.

HOSIA: I really felt like the whole world was mine after my proposal was accepted. I remember I couldn’t sleep a wink the night she said 'yes'. Everything felt so right from day one. It was all becoming a reality.

      How did you break the news to the parents?

KGABO: I had an evening call with my dad and while we were talking, I waited for the right moment where he was laughing and jumped in with, “Dad, there’s someone who wants to marry me” and his response was, “Okay, you know what the procedure is. I can’t stop you from engaging with the one you love, I can only pray that it is a God Fearing man.”  That’s when I realised I had my parents' full support.

HOSIA: I was having supper with my mom when I took advantage of the peaceful atmosphere with her smiling over my chatter of Gauteng's beauty. I told her there’s someone I would like to marry. Her reaction was amazing and all she was interested in was knowing more about her.

      How involved were you in planning the Wedding?

KGABO: I was the one who chose the attires and our Traditional Wedding Theme. I also had to make sure that the invitations were created and sent out to people (friends, family, relatives, and colleagues).

HOSIA: I chose our beautiful wedding bands and coordinated the arrangements between my family and Kgabo's.

     The one person who stood out for you throughout the entire process of the Wedding preparations

KGABO: My sister, Tumisha. Sometimes our parents want us to do what they think is good for us even if we disagree, like choosing your own MC for example. My sister is the one person who stood up for me like some kind of Wonder Woman and managed to convince my parents to let me choose what I really wanted.

HOSIA: My mom's support saw me through the entire preparations process. She really helped me however she could, advised me, and always reminded me to look at the positive side of things.

    

     What are you most looking forward to in this phase of your life?

BOTH: To have more fun together, travel the world together, grow together both spiritually and physically, serve God, help the needy and look after our family.

     The best and worst marriage advice you've received 

KGABO: Best Advice – “Don’t ever talk bad about your husband to anyone”; reason being people will lose respect for my husband and that is something I don’t want.

Worst Advice – “You must agree with everything he says”; I was told that we will fight all the time in our first year of marriage, so I should just agree with everything he says, but I know the importance of having my voice heard and being a vital part of our conversations. Being subservient is not in my DNA.

HOSIA: Worst Advice – "Never tell your wife how much you earn because she will control you".

Best Advice – "Always invite God over your marriage and never go to bed with unresolved issues between you and your wife".

Misconceptions you had about marriage that your marriage has proven wrong

KGABO: I thought staying with someone, seeing them every day...would become boring, but it is honestly the best experience. Living with my husband and seeing him every day brightens up everything, a minute apart and his absence is felt.

HOSIA: I always thought that having your partner close would create arguments and fights. Staying together means getting to know each other better, having fun, bonding as friends and also as lovers.

  

     Would you say that there’s a right age to get married at and why?

BOTH:  No (as long it’s the legal age of course). If two people love and are committed to each other fully, and are sure they will actually stick with each other through thick and thin then they should go for it..

      The first thing you do in the morning when you wake up 

KGABO: If I wake up first, I make sure that I wake him in the most annoying way possible. The look on his face is priceless!

HOSIA: I always ask my wife is she’s fine and give her a kiss on the forehead.

     Which celeb does your partner remind you of and why?

KGABO: No one, I see him as a unique person. I can’t relate him with anyone.

HOSIA: Keke Palmer - My wife is so intellectual. She enjoys singing and dancing for me. She’s beautiful and fun to be with.

     Your favorite couple and why 

KGABO: My parents (Mr.  Phillip and Mrs. Catherine Komane) - They have achieved almost everything together. Growing up in a loving and healthy family made me believe that true love does exist and I don’t remember ever seeing them argue in front of us. I think they are the perfect example of what a good marriage looks like.

HOSIA: Mrs. Connie and Mr. Shona Ferguson – They are a hardworking couple and have achieved a lot together. They know how to balance their personal, family, and professional lives. A rare trait.

Photo Cred: Couple's own